Well, last week was a major fail. I’m going to try again with this blog.
People do things for two reason: a good reason and the real reason.
A good reason is what we tell people when they ask us why were doing it. The real reason is what’s actually motivating us to do something. I’ve always taken pride that I was really honest with myself about the real reason why I kept this blog.
My Good Reason was to prove that an INFP can make great changes in their life.
My Real Reason was that I was filling my need for Critical Importance.
I wrote an article on my INFP blog called Fulfilling Your Needs about the need for Critical Importance. Basically, I write this blog. People read it. I feel I’m important. If I’m honest with myself and and admit my real reason, it saves a lot of time trying to fool myself that I’m doing stuff for some ideal purpose.
So I’ve been doing various experiments to get new readers. The last one being to not post every day, because who wants to read a daily blog. It’s too much.
Here’s the drawback. I wasn’t getting as much done as last month. When I posted last month, this blog kept me accountable. This blog was helping me with my Growth need even though it wasn’t doing much for my Critical Importance need. This month is total slack for me.
When it comes down to it. I don’t feel as good as I did last month because I’m not getting as much done. And doing stuff because it makes you feel good, no matter how difficult is a Real Reason to do something.
Daily Actions Towards My Goals
Answered client query – I had a query from one of my graphic designer clients about helping her with a client that needed help with private video embedding. I did one thing that I did differently. I would have done some quick research and made a few suggestions. Instead I told her that I’d do the research, but she would have to pay for it. Basically, knowledge is free. She can Google it. Work requires time and effort. That is not free. Doing this helps me because it’s stopping me from doing free work even if that work won’t take that long.
Doing Small Things
Back-filling Giving Ground entries – Doing this helps me chart my progress to show that I didn’t really totally slack.
{ 1 comment… read it below or add one }
Just another post to say thanks for your work and your blogs. I just found this one today. I admire your effort to put your own words into action, and also your honesty about when it works and when it doesn’t.
I find this blog helpful, in addition to your infp blog, since it gives me a model or template which I can use to make myself accountable. Sometimes I have to see how someone else does something before it makes sense to me.
I do plan to write and share more of my own experiences. But right now, I am finding so much of the material helpful that I am going to need some time to process it all before I start to share. Your blogs are at the top of my list right now. Thanks. Hopefully I will be able to give something back in the future.
Cheers!
[Reply]